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Easter Greetings Rebecca and Family  / Dawn, Stepmom Of Angel Alexis Farmer (someone who cares )
Thinking of you Becca and your special family  / Jenny Tavendale Mum To Ross   Read >>
Thinking of you Becca and your special family  / Jenny Tavendale Mum To Ross



I know this is a little early 
but I will not be here or have access to my pc
and I just could not miss this
opportunty to ley you know that my thoughts 
are with you
God Bless Becca sweet dreams
sweetheartxx

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Angel 10 years  / Lisa Copeland   Read >>
Angel 10 years  / Lisa Copeland

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Thinking of you and your precious angel  / Jo-Ann~mom Of Angel~Lauren Pacenta   Read >>
Thinking of you and your precious angel  / Jo-Ann~mom Of Angel~Lauren Pacenta
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HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY REBECCA  / Debbie Wengert (Kevin's Mom )  Read >>
HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY REBECCA  / Debbie Wengert (Kevin's Mom )





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A valentine for an angel  / Rosemary Sis Of ^j^ Alvin Cremeans   Read >>
A valentine for an angel  / Rosemary Sis Of ^j^ Alvin Cremeans
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Rebecca / Gail Mom Crystal Earnhart (^l^ friend )  Read >>
Rebecca / Gail Mom Crystal Earnhart (^l^ friend )
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A decade  / Mommy   Read >>
A decade  / Mommy
A decade. A measure of time that actually has a name…a name because 10 years is a lot of years; a name because it signifies the passage of a lot of time. Married couples mark the milestone with special celebrations and special gifts. Children celebrate with great energy their entry into double digits. It makes me wonder -- what about bereaved parents? What are we to do with this milestone? How are we to mark the passing of 10 years since our beloved child died? Because I haven't found any written guidelines on the subject, I've decided to just give in to the experience. I figure I'm going to cross the 10-year marker on my grief journey whether I like it or not, so I may as well just open my eyes and my heart and see and feel whatever there is to be seen and felt. Just like every other part of this journey, there's no way around the dips in the road – I just have to walk through them. So, for one bereaved mom at the 10-year mark, here's what my experience with this special milestone is stirring in me. I find myself reflecting on the past 10 years...reflecting on those first minutes in the evening of March 29, on the first hours, on the first days. Reflecting on all the painful firsts, all of the new realizations. All of the memories that I have struggled to suppress since that horrible day…all of the memories that are once again invading my mind and are transporting me to a place I don't want to be. I find that some of the memories are incredibly vivid and crisp and overwhelmingly painful; others are vague and shapeless and leave me numb again. I find myself reliving the grief experience year by year by year, and thinking about all of the lessons learned. This milestone, and the corresponding self-reflection it brings, has re-enforced for me the realization that I'm in a far different place 10 years later, that I have changed and grown, that I am not standing still, that I am not stuck in the mud of deep, incapacitating grief. Some would call this movement progress – I would concur begrudgingly, but I would prefer to call it movement in an uncertain direction. But, I do find comfort in having moved. No longer is my daughter's death front and center 24/7. It's now something less than that. In that, I find comfort.
Thinking about the past 10 years has made me realize that I have finally acknowledged and succumbed to (I can't yet say "accepted") the fact that Becca's death left a gaping hole in my heart and in my life that will never ever be filled in the way it was before March 29, 1997. I have integrated that fact into the fabric of my life and I have accommodated it. The edges around the hole aren't as raw and sensitive as they once were, and the hole has been filled in with new and joyful experiences, so it is not as large as it once was. But still, the hole remains, and I have acknowledged and succumbed to my new normal. I have learned to live with the hole, just as amputees learn to live without their limbs. Through the really good times and through the really bad times, and through everything in between, I know that the sense of loss is never very far away and that it will forever color the lens through which I look at life. Sometimes the lens is very dark; other times it is as clear as glass. But it is always there.
I am so glad that after 10 years I have finally and gratefully realized that the love between my daughter and me could ever die and will never even fade. The mother-daughter bond we shared is a forever bond. As Vincent Van Gogh said, "Love is something eternal; the aspect may change, but not the essence." I know now that I love my daughter as I always have, and as I always will, and I know that's a love only Becca and I share. I'm filling with a sense of dread as the "black anniversary" – particularly this special milestone – draws near. I am resisting making a plan. I just want to sleep deeply through the week before and the week after. I know I will survive it. I also know that I will hate it. I'm feeling sorry for my daughter and for me and for everyone who loved her. I'm feeling sorry for all that we have missed these past 10 ears – and for all that we will miss in the next 10. I'm granting myself permission to wallow in these feelings for the time that I need,because that's what I need (lesson learned on the grief journey – don't be afraid or embarrassed to just surrender ometimes). I'm wanting to share this milestone with those who loved my daughter, because I know they feel her loss, too, but I lack the strength to reach out – the possible judgment by just one person is too much to risk, because no, I am NOT over "it" yet. But, I would like to shout from the roof tops – doesanyone else remember that is has been 10 years since the day the music died? Now that I've reached and am about to go past the 10-year marker, what next? Here's what I see between years 10 and 20. Time will tell. I expect that I will still miss my daughter beyond words. I know that I'll still love my daughter, and that I'll continue to ponder what would have been, if only there had neverbeen a March 29, 1997. I'll bring my daughter and my memories of her with me. I'll find new ways to remember her,and I'll smile more than I'll cry at those memories. I'll live in a way that would make my daughter proud. I'll still be Becca's Mom and she'll still be my little girl. I'll continue to work on how to give and receive love, especially as I replay images of the physical hugs, kisses and love I was lucky enough to get from my daughter. I'll see if I can replicate their warmth and love. I'll search for and will find more memories like the one I have of my last embrace with my daughter. They sustain me. I'll be more open to good times; perhaps I'll even go looking for some – I can almost hear my daughter singing the line in the song: "Life may not be the party we hoped for…butwhile we are here, we might as well dance." I know what she would want me to do. I will try to honor her wishes during the next decade without her.
My belief will be strengthened in the concept articulated by many, including Emily Dickinson, when she wrote: "And if I go while you're still here…know that I live on, vibrating to a different measure, behind a thin veil you cannot see through. You will not see me, so you must have faith. I wait for the time when we soar together again, both aware of each other. Until then, live your life to its fullest and, when you need me, just whisper my name in your heart. I will be there."
I love my Rebecca Faith. I wish this milestone were just a dream. A decade is a long time.

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REBECCA AND FAMILY  / Debbie Wengert (Kevin's Mom )  Read >>
REBECCA AND FAMILY  / Debbie Wengert (Kevin's Mom )

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Wishing you peace in the New Year  / Jo-Ann Pacenta (Mom to an angel )  Read >>
Wishing you peace in the New Year  / Jo-Ann Pacenta (Mom to an angel )
May the blessings of the season carry over into a new year filled with peace and comfort.
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Good Morning Precious Rebecca  / LaRaine Mom To Angel Cynthia Hernandez (Friend)  Read >>
Good Morning Precious Rebecca  / LaRaine Mom To Angel Cynthia Hernandez (Friend)
YOU ARE SUCH A SPECIAL LIL ANGEL, SENDING MY LOVE TO YOU AND YOUR BEAUTIFUL FAMILY. YOU WILL FOREVER BE REMEMBERED AND LOVED. HOW CAN YOU FORGET AN ANGEL? STAY CLOSE TO YOUR FAMILY THEY MISS YOU SO MUCH. LOTS OF LOVE & HUGS ALWAYS. 






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ANGEL REBBECA  / LISA COPELAND   Read >>
ANGEL REBBECA  / LISA COPELAND

 
  

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MERRY CHRISTMAS  / BETH Dickerson (Jimmy's Mom )  Read >>
MERRY CHRISTMAS  / BETH Dickerson (Jimmy's Mom )
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friend / Dessa Smith Joseph's Mom (friend)  Read >>
friend / Dessa Smith Joseph's Mom (friend)
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To my Abgel Baby girl on Christmas  / Mommy   Read >>
To my Abgel Baby girl on Christmas  / Mommy


Missing you like always during the holiday season. I go to the stores and shop for people, and your brother, and I can't help but look at the dolls and all the pink stuff and wonder what it would be that you would ask for this Christmas..........I know you are in heaven with Jesus, celebrating his birth, but as selfish as this may seem, I want you here with me. I miss you so much baby girl and I know that I don't spend as much time on your website as I use to and I should be here more, but my heart just hurts when I look at your sweet face and remember................ I love you honey and I always will.......Merry Christmas Baby girl Close
Rebecca to you and yours during this holiday season  / Debbie Wengert (Kevin's Mom )  Read >>
Rebecca to you and yours during this holiday season  / Debbie Wengert (Kevin's Mom )

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Merry Christmas  / Dawn Daniel (Angel Friend )  Read >>
Merry Christmas  / Dawn Daniel (Angel Friend )

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THANKSGIVING PRAYER  / BETH Dickerson (Jimmy's Mom )  Read >>
THANKSGIVING PRAYER  / BETH Dickerson (Jimmy's Mom )




Dear Father who art in Heaven...
Please join our family on this Thanksgiving Day
and bless each one as we sit down to pray
as we remember those who have joined you above
so dearly missed and deeply loved.

Please provide us strength on this Thanksgiving Day
Bless us with memories of those faraway...
Please grant patience to family and friends as we grieve
and help us reach out to others who are bereaved.

We give thanks to you on this Thanksgiving Day....
For Your presence in our lives each and everyday.
For Your comfort, guidance, and never ending love...
And for taking care of our loved ones...in Heaven above.

As we light this candle on this Thanksgiving Day...
And it glows in memory of those in Heaven today....
May their lights always shine down on us and give us light...
And may we feel their presence along with yours tonight.

May the peace and tranquility of this Thanksgiving Day
Be an everlasting light within each of us along the way...
Lets bow our heads and give our Thanks to God above.
For our blessings, whether on earth or in Heaven above...
Amen

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Happy Holloween  / BETH Dickerson (Jimmy's Mom )  Read >>
Happy Holloween  / BETH Dickerson (Jimmy's Mom )
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HUGS GO OUT TO YOU -a poem  / CHERI BROOKS FROM OHIO (ANGELS IN HEAVEN )  Read >>
HUGS GO OUT TO YOU -a poem  / CHERI BROOKS FROM OHIO (ANGELS IN HEAVEN )
IF I KNEW

If I knew it would be the last time
That I'd see you fall asleep,
I would tuck you in more tightly
and pray the Lord, your soul to keep.

If I knew it would be the last time
that I see you walk out the door,
I would give you a hug and kiss
and call you back for one more.

If I knew it would be the last time
I'd hear your voice lifted up in praise,
I would video tape each action and word,
so I could play them back day after day.

If I knew it would be the last time,
I could spare an extra minute
to stop and say "I love you,"
instead of assuming you would KNOW I do.

If I knew it would be the last time
I would be there to share your day,
Well I'm sure you'll have so many more,
so I can let just this one slip away.

For surely there's always tomorrow
to make up for an oversight,
and we always get a second chance
to make everything just right.

There will always be another day
to say "I love you,"
And certainly there's another chance
to say our "Anything I can do?"

But just in case I might be wrong,
and today is all I get,
I'd like to say how much I love you
and I hope we never forget.

Tomorrow is not promised to anyone,
young or old alike,
And today may be the last chance
you get to hold your loved one tight.

So if you're waiting for tomorrow,
why not do it today?
For if tomorrow never comes,
you'll surely regret the day,

That you didn't take that extra time
for a smile, a hug, or a kiss
and you were too busy to grant someone,
what turned out to be their one last wish.

So hold your loved ones close today,
and whisper in their ear,
Tell them how much you love them
and that you'll always hold them dear

Take time to say "I'm sorry,"
"Please forgive me," "Thank you," or "It's okay."
And if tomorrow never comes,
you'll have no regrets about toDAY...Most Important......never forget to tell someone how very much you love them, it so easy, just SAY......AND TO BEAUTIFUL REBECCA ,HERE IS A TEDDY BEAR FOR YOU SWEETNESS rest in peace babygirl xxoo Close
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